Parenting

By Ashini J. Desai

The ABCDs of Parenting: Being the Class Parent

Do you remember the class parents in your elementary school? They were there with a smile and a batch of perfectly frosted cupcakes for the whole class. They were the extra guides on field trips and ran the reception tables for school programs. Now, with children in school or preschool, it’s our turn to play this part.

We may not have the benefit of following the example of our own parents’ actions. As immigrants, many may have preferred working behind the scenes. Being unfamiliar with the American culture, they may not have recognized the impact that helping at school can have. The difference in culture may have limited their involvement. For example, I remember my mother making traditional sweets for International Day, but not the bake sales. As the next generation, we should be able to take the next steps.

But, wait. You are a career professional, a homemaker, a grocery specialist, a short-order cook, a chauffeur, an activity scheduler and a laundry authority. Chances are you also handle accounts payable, events coordination and countless other roles. Is there any space in your life to be a class parent? Yes, there are small ways to fit this important action into your life. Since the school year is beginning now, grab your schedule and plan ahead. Getting involved early will help you network and will help you participate in the school year with your child.

Getting into the Classroom: Why Be a Class Parent?
There are many benefits to volunteering at your child’s school; its positive impact stretches into the community. First, it clearly shows your child that you are interested in what he or she does during the day. Also, your appearance blends your child’s home and school lives, providing a sense of security. There’s also a sense of pride a child might have in showing off a parent. Your child has seen other parents come, so he or she hopes you will as well.

In addition, volunteering at school reassures teachers and school members that you are engaged in your child’s education and interests. This helps keep an open dialogue between you and the teacher, who may need to approach you about issues. Establishing visibility and strengthening relationships have returns on the individual level; however, any type of volunteer support enhances a learning environment. Any fundraising, financial or time-saving contributions would be appreciated.

Finally, there’s a wonderful benefit for you. You get to spend some time with your child. By participating in a class event, you can see your child interact with others. Plus, you’re able to see what is being taught in school, and you can reinforce it at home. For example, look at the games and books the teachers are using. Also, parents can learn many things from teachers, especially about discipline and kid control. For example, teachers clap to get the children’s attention. Use it at home and save your throat.

Little Steps That Go a Long Way: How to Get Involved
There are many ways to help, even with a busy schedule. On-site volunteering offers the most visibility, but it also requires more time. There are some other tasks that might fit your lifestyle better. If you have conflicts and can only attend a specific activity, ask your child which ones are important to him or her. If the answer is “All of them,” then decide which will be the most valuable for your child. Here are some suggestions from other experienced parents.

- As Scheduled: If your schedule is flexible, offer to be a school bus volunteer and help children before or after school. For events such as picnics and shows, volunteers set up before the event or stay behind to help clean afterwards. Some schools, especially private ones, look for parents to help facilitate parking at school functions as well.

- Guest Activity Leader: My daughter’s preschool invited parents to participate in a weekly story hour as a guest reader. Find out what your child’s class needs. A scheduled activity allows you to plan accordingly.

Get Involved Behind the Scenes
- Sign Me Up to Shop: For parties and events, sign up to bring items. Get your child’s input so he or she can share the excitement for the event. If baking fresh cookies is not realistic, you can supply additional paper products or a carton of juice boxes. Remember the healthy options like grapes and baby carrots, which can be easily doled out by the teachers.

- Teacher’s Homework: Ask teachers if there is work that needs to be done, such as cutting, assembly, printing or photocopying for big projects. Many teachers do these things on their own time and could use a helping hand.

- That’s Show Business: Help with costumes and sets for class plays. Don’t worry about being Martha Stewart here. Recently, a class at a school nearby had the children dress like mice for Cinderella. The costumes were turtlenecks and leggings with little mice ears on headbands. Several mothers helped organize the collection and assisted with make-up before the show.

Recognizing Limits
While these volunteering avenues are exciting, be careful not to overextend yourself. It’s easy to be enthusiastic and start saying “yes” when you really should say “no.” Be realistic and know your limitations. Remember, your family should always come first.

It’s also important to keep in mind that while teachers appreciate parental involvement, the boundaries between school and home must be maintained. Parents and teachers are allies with the same goal of enhancing a child’s learning experiences. Be careful about overstepping your boundaries or undermining the authority of a teacher.

If you are still unable to help in any way, remember the best way to be involved is to help your child at home. Support healthy routines for homework, meals and sleep that will help your child stay alert and active in school.

When you make your child a priority, everything will fall into place.

Ashini J. Desai is a software professional, full-time mother and wife, and a creative writer for various websites, including her own blogsite, www.ashinid.blogspot.com.

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