The best thing you can
do is to use this "waiting time" productively.
Try to live a full life rather than waiting until
you get married to do so—and before you know
it, the wedding will be over!
QUESTION
I recently started a new job and am finding myself
in unfamiliar territory. One of the senior managers
(with whom I interact, but don’t report to)
is very attractive, but I never really thought anything
of it. One night, we all went out for drinks and had
so much fun that he and I started hanging out separately.
Not only am I really attracted to him but we also
have so much to talk about, and hours go by without
my realizing it. I’m normally so picky about
the people I date, but I can’t seem to get enough
of him and, according to him, the feeling is mutual.
I’m not sure what to do since I’ve never
really felt like this about someone, but on the other
hand, if we were discovered, both of us could end
up without a job. Help!
ANSWER
Research shows that over 40% of working Americans
have been involved with a coworker. With people spending
so much of their lives at work, it’s no wonder
that workplace romances flourish. And then there’s
that adventurous thrill ride that could make an otherwise
drab workweek that much more exciting.
Even though this is the case, you
still owe it to yourself to stop and think about your
situation. Where in your career are you? If it came
down to it, would you be willing to sacrifice your
career for this potential relationship, especially
given the current market conditions?
If you’ve considered these
questions and believe that this potential relationship
is more valuable to you than your job, then go for
it. Just remember that you will have to accept the
risks involved, the major one being that if it doesn’t
work out, those 40 work hours per week might feel
like an eternity!
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