Welcome Letter From Barbie Adler, President & CEO of Selective Search

How Selective Search Came To Be

We’ve all been there.

All your life you wonder if you’ll find him. Does he even exist?

You see friends in marriages bound by love and others who tied the knot under a cloud of self-delusion, resulting in failed marriages. Meanwhile, everyone with an opinion tells you the same thing: “Your standards are too high. You spend too much time focusing on your career. You don’t put yourself in situations where you could meet someone of quality.”

So you do as any single woman would—you date. You know the drill…You tell yourself he’s good enough for now. Your parents love him. You stay together because it’s convenient, or because flying solo lost its appeal.

So now what? You settle.

Wrong answer. I know from experience success doesn’t happen by chance, and settling is the quickest road to misery, chaos and a divorce attorney on speed dial.

I was a top executive recruiter retained by Fortune 500 companies to identify and handpick the most seasoned and well-suited candidates to join their corporate empires. Life was fulfilling both personally and professionally, though I couldn’t say the same for my peers. They had everything going for them except personal relationship success. I knew first hand their dating horror stories and how some of these incredible singles had simply given up. With my own personal life intact, I had an overwhelming desire to make a difference in their personal lives.

I turned to my background as an executive recruiter to address the challenge and create the solution.

If the vetting process is so effective and efficient in corporate America, why wouldn’t I apply the same methodology to personal lives?

My answer: Executive Recruiting meets Personal Matchmaking. And Selective Search, Inc was born.

Selective Search operates as a personal recruiter—an upscale, offline, old-fashioned boutique matchmaking firm. We work one-on-one with the brightest single people of all ages and ethnicities, across the country and abroad to help them find the love of their life. South Asians are one of our fastest growing client demographics. By employing proven executive recruiting techniques, we interview in-person every male to ensure he is focused on finding a partner he will spend the rest of his life with, allowing us to match you with the love of your life.

Founded in 2000 and headquartered in Chicago, with offices and clients nationwide (our largest client base is in Chicago, DC, NY, Dallas, Atlanta, San Francisco and LA) and abroad. Selective Search is your answer to finding high caliber, commitment-minded single men of all ethnicities.

Like you, our affiliates have no problem dating, but they don’t have the time, visibility or access to the caliber of men they are looking to meet.

Our success rate speaks for itself: 30 percent of our clients form exclusive relationships from the first introduction and 45 percent need merely three introductions before forming exclusive relationships that lead to marriage.

The foundation of success stems from our team of seasoned matchmaking and executive recruiting professionals. Adhering to responsible matchmaking, we act as our woman’s personal agent and girlfriend and only fix them up with someone truly exceptional that they would be excited to meet.

Under our proven model, we eliminate any conflict of interest. Retained exclusively by male clientele, Selective Search has no barriers for quality women to join our network, no cost to enroll. As a result we produce highly successful relationships. Success is not measured by the quantity of dates but rather the quality of introductions and in achieving your end goal. Selective Search honors both individuals’ time and preferences. When selecting the ideal match for our client, the woman also knows the client is the ideal match for her. We pride ourselves on having the access to and the trust of the largest network of exceptional clients from all over the world, that continues to expand, including but not limited to American and South Asian men.

Consider the alternative. Under the traditional dating service model, clients fall victim to receiving mismatched dates, matching only paid clients with other paid clients in order to fill both quotas.

Cut to - Our model. Imagine having your own executive recruiter focused solely on your personal life, acting as your ‘personal recruiter’, scouting, screening, and weeding out the inappropriate candidates, interviewing the must-meet individuals in person, and introducing you to your future.

You are strategic and savvy in everything you do. It's time to apply the same wisdom to the most important search of your life. Our clients are some of the most intelligent, trustworthy, handsome, successful and commitment-minded bachelors out there. Don’t waste your time on another bad date—let us help you find the man that will exceed your highest expectations. This way, you have nothing to loose and an amazing guy to gain!!

Let us take the labor out of finding the love of your life.

To privately register with us and be part of our internally viewed only network, please visit www.selectivesearch-inc.com. Click on “women” and fill out the registration form and either upload a photo or email it to photos@selectivesearch-inc.com. We look forward to knowing you!!

Selective Search has been profiled in Forbes, Fortune, The Wall Street Journal, Cosmopolitan, Glamour, and USA Today for being the most talented matchmaking firm to successful eligible bachelors of all ages and ethnicities.

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